After all of my self development adventures I am now a strong believer that New Year's Resolution DO NOT work and in fact I think they are bulldoodie.
Every year for as long as I can remember I pledged to a resolution, usually had to do with my health and fitness. Most people do.
The Top 10 resolutions according to The Statistic Brain are :
Spend Less, Save More
Enjoy Life to the Fullest
Staying Fit and Healthy
Learn Something Exciting
Help Others in Their Dreams
Fall in Love
Spend More Time with Family
If you look at these there is a good chance you or someone you know has had a resolution similar to one of these.
In this episode I share with you:
I'm not talking about the need to control others as much as the need for the SENSE of control. It is a deep rooted need in a human. Its all about the feeling and it cannot be ignored, because it is in fact a NEED. Like any feeling it is there for a reason and needs attention and love and understanding. and like any need if it goes unmet, shit hits the fan and life spirals out of control, literally….
When we experience the sense of being out of control we feel stressed and that need increases with intensity.
If we look back in evolution, we needed to be in control of what was happening around us to stay alive. in our subconscious mind we are highly sensitive to fight or flight (fight to the death or flight from defeat)
Some other needs for control:
Control issues may be related to:
Do you know who Maslow is?
Heard of Maslows hierarchy of needs?
When the lower needs aren’t met, the higher ones are neglected because of the simple fact the body needs the lower ones as a priority. If we feel out of control because of poor health, the focus goes to that and the same with extreme exhaustion, we have no choice but to gain that control back again. this makes complete sense!
Now if you REALLY think about, do REALLY NEED to have control or just a feeling that you have a sense of control, that you know what is happening, will happen, or can happen? Probably just a sense of control right?
We give control to people we trust in life, so this shows we have the sense of control not that we need to be in control of everything that is happening.
Society dictates a lot for us, what is expected, allowed, so when we follow these we feel in control because we feel safe.
we have daily patterns we follow a schedule, most of us. Even if its just a morning or evening routine, it makes us feel in control and safe and comfortable. Imagine not having a morning routine, if you are the type who needs to have a sense of control, its chaotic!
When we lose that sense of control we fall back to being not so nice to be around, we tend to have to seek out a way to get a hold, or control of our surroundings, we get stiff and snappy at others. We want to feel safe and in that moment we don’t FEEL safe.
I always say life is about feelings and this is a great example of a need to feel, to understand that feeling and to nurture it, not push it away..
So what can we do to understand
This is a DEEP process and if you are dedicated to YOURSELF this is where to start, need help? Im here!
UNDERSTAND that when you try so hard to get control of a situation you just repel it.
ex. children and parents, or trying to get the attention of the opposite sex.
When you push too hard the opposite happens, in most situations. By taking away the needs that lead to a sense of control, you can relieve some stress. learning to be uncertain, unaware of the outcome, know that it is okay to not finish something, inconsistency.
these can all break that incessant need to control and at the same time the universe gives you back what you want and need.
So I hope you got a chance to listen to OR watch last weeks show on So...What's your story.
I am having such a great time doing these FB Live shows for you each monday, it really is an honor.
This week I was SUPER inspired to bring to you a show about emotions and how they can affect your life IF YOU GET TO KNOW THEM, the ones inside your own head that is as well as understanding that others go through the same exact shit that you do!
Leaning into that uncomfortable spot that we so often try to hide with food, work, drugs, or sex is so hard! I know!
I referenced a section of the book Rising Strong by Brene Brown in this episode because I had picked up the book from the library before Thanksgiving and just started reading it this past week and BOOM was she on point. I am doing this stuff myself but coming across it in a book I was shocked to see that what she had so carefully researched, I was doing but hadn't put it 100% together yet. It felt soooo good and just right. I HIGHLY suggest you grab this book
What I was talking about in the podcast was how Brene so nicely laid out the the 3 points to make everything come together so nicely.
Listen on, listen on....
****Today's show was recorded via FB LIVE on Monday December 5th at 5PM EST.
Welcome to today's show thank you so much for being here and I hope you got to catch the live show on my Facebook page.
Today I talked about "what's your story? "
How do you tell your story to yourself dictates how you live your life now.
I believe there are three main concepts in creating your story. They include your influences your beliefs and your core memories. Core memories sort of like from the movie inside out you know the one with all the emotions?
In this episode I share with you how I created my story and how you can then piece together your story and once you have your life story you can create a new story based on what you want to feel.
Many of us don't know who we are and why we are here we just live life but who wants to just live life.
Don't you want to have more out of life and live happier?
Go ahead go check out the show and make sure to subscribe to my lives you can find the link in my Instagram account at thelaurenjeans and grab the link in my bio
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Welcome back to the show loves!
Thank you so much for being here as always.
This week was another LIVE PODCAST via FB Live on my personal FB Page.
The topic came from my Facebook group Confident, Carefree, and Intuitive Living when I asked what people were struggling with.
The answer..... I'm Not good enough.
Such a tough thing to deal with and I know that we all have fights in our own heads about this very topic so I decided to jump on it and get LIVE.
Listen to the podcast and if you want you can watch the LIVE replay, go to my instagram @thelaurenjeans and grab the link in my profile so you can friend me and join LIVE each Monday at 5PM EST.
Enjoy the show!
So today was great! Again a live one and i can't wait to do more!
Today is Thanksgiving so I don't expect you are listening today unless it's you 1 thing you are doing for yourself and in that case... Thank YOU!
Today I talked about 5 ways to chill the F out, cause it's holiday time:
Breaking it down real quick for you because I want you to listen:
My bad thing is to enjoy the meal, even the dessert, NO guilt all pleasure!
Happy Thanksgiving and enjoy your friends and family!
This was my first episode recorded live! So exciting!
Facebook live is amazing and you must try IT!
Today I spoke about the holiday season and food struggles during this time of the year.
We struggle with so much and when the holidays hit right after Halloween I feel it comes into full force where we are so concerned with what and how we are eating so we don't get to fully ENJOY the holiday and all its goodness.
Three feelings come to mind when talking food and the holidays:
Im sure one of those will resonate with you?
Listen in as I give 4 Ways to Calm you the F down so you can enjoy your holiday season!
Lisa is a licensed therapist. She works with clients in private practice with trauma and anxiety.
Being a mom can be so stressful and anxiety ridden so she helps mom’s calm down and cope with life without having to see a shrink or self-medicate.
The typical mom has to worry about is she giving her kid work during the summer to stop the summer slide(when she grew up summer slide was something that you actually slid on) not extra homework she was supposed to give her child so that he didn’t fall behind in school during the summer. Today’s mom’s live with constant comparison’s-my next door neighbor’s daughter is reading in the 99th percentile. Why didn’t I breastfeed longer? Why didn’t I read to my daughter more when she was little?
Mom’s today are in a frenzy of information and people telling us we are bad mom’s. My friend’s daughter got into MIT, my son spends all of his time on his iPad playing Minecraft?? How will he ever get into a good college?
Add travel soccer teams, piano lessons, piano lessons, plus a career and many women are nervous balls of anxiety. Beating up on them selves or anxious about their children and everything that they have to do in their lives. Constant worry, dread and anxiety can overwhelm them and stop them from really enjoying children.
In this episode Lisa shares with us some of the tips that she shares with her clients. She lives in the big, beautiful state of Montana and have two beautiful daughters, a handsome husband, and cat named Oreo who rules the roost.
Alright let’s go!
I spoke with Perpetua Neo and at a perfect time, right before I was about to go through my own anxiety, which I deal with from time to time. But this time it hit perfectly.
As I type this I am just coming out of a 2.5 week of complete shutdown, where my brain and body were so confused and wiped the f out. Remembering what we spoke about and the notes I took during the interview with Perpetua we wonderful:
Perpetua is a clinical psychologist by training. She understands both worlds of psychotherapy and coaching, and creates the best blend for you. Whether in Brighton & Hove or online, the work is short-term. Because you’ll tap into your strength to write your next chapters. You’ll become your own best friend and trusted advisor.
In this chat we discussed:
I hope you enjoy this show as much as I did. This is the type of interview that I will listen to over and over as I have done with MANY of my past shows.
Wonderful Chat with miss Stephanie Caputo today
Stephanie is a devoted Health Coach who educates clients on nutrition, exercise, and confidence building without crash dieting.
At the age of 29 and as a single parent she graduated college with a Bachelor of Science in Community Health. She currently works for the USDA grant (Cornell Cooperative extention & The Chautauqua Center) Eat Smart New York as a county Nutritionist where she teaches children and adults the importance of healthy eating.
In this episode she share with us some of her great tips. She has also included a freebie for you to download.
thanks and enjoy the show!
Today I spoke with Andi Wickman who is a Personality Based Marketing Strategist.
She works with entrepreneurs to be seen through their marketing using their own personality.
Today we are going to speak on a fun subject, 3 Ways to Infuse your personality into your personal brand.
Andi offers 5, so go here to download her freebie and get the other 2!
The 3 we discussed today:
1. Know yourself and your core desires
2. Know your audience, their problems and you can solve them
3.use your own humor.
These are JUST 3 so go grab the whole cheatsheet! Join her FB group too! Its a fun place to be!
Today I spoke with Holistic Health Coach Amy Lanci on the very popular topic of emotional eating.
Amy is a certified health coach for you--the tired, guilt-driven woman who wants to quit listening to her inner critic and stop burying her feelings in food so you can lose the stubborn pounds, reconnect with what makes you happy and love the person you see in the mirror.
In this chat she shared her personal story with emotional eating and how she now helps women now.
Great story, Inspiring story, Real story.
So happy to have you listen in....
So these past 2 weeks I have had a REAl hard time but I have had success in following my intuition and listening to my feelings.
Still having a hard time but awareness is there and I am headed in the right direction. Big changes are happening once again and SO many feelings came up
To the point where I shutdown mentally, physically and emotionally. I needed to do this so that I could get a clear head.
In this episode I share with you what I was going thorough and how i pulled out and How i am still working on it and finally feeling better.
Through intuition, control and feelings so many things in life can be understood.
I transition once again, earlier than expected and without fear of losing you.
Thank you for being here.
Listen in to todays show!
Welcome back junkies!!
Today I spoke with Nicolya williams from www.nicolyawilliams.com.
Nicolya is Personal Development Coach who works with busy women to conquer their mindset and be productive!
In this episode she shares with us 5 great ways to be more productive! Who doesn't need that?
No more fluff, read on and listen in!
1. First thing in the morning avoid immediately looking at your phone. The first twenty minutes when you wake is the most vulnerable time for your subconscious mind. If you use that time for affirmations, meditation, and prayer you will start your day on a more positive, calm,
2. Complete the most important task first. Yes, there will always be countless tasks on your to-do list. We as busy women have to learn how to prioritize our list. The truth is if I have three projects due, but one is really comprehensive or due sooner than the other two I ensure that I knock that out immediately.
3. Try what she calls “daily power hour’s”. I was given this suggestion from a former life coach. Power hours are the time that I dedicate to one specific goal. Each day I identify what my power hour will be geared towards. Some days it is my business, some days it is work and other days it is school. This is determined by the task that is most important to complete at the time being. During my daily power hour, I shut off my phone, therefore, I am not tempted to check social media or emails. I also make this time of my day after my daughters fall asleep. This is to ensure that I will not be pulled in many different directions.
4. Take advantage of down time. How many of you have time where you are waiting in a doctor’s/dentist office? Standing outside waiting for your kid’s school bus? Etc. I use these moments to take advantage of other responsibilities so that they do not bog down my time later in the day. Some examples of things I do during this time includes checking my email, catching up on missed text messages or social media notifications. if it is going to be a long wait I may bring a book with me as well and use that time to catch up on my reading.
5. Lastly, I am sure to manage my energy. This is something I have learned the hard way, unfortunately. I spent many days so focused on my goals that I let myself slide. I would eat a ton of junk food, not drink enough water and reduce my sleep to add time to my priorities. In the long run, this really hurt me because when I did not have the energy I was not really productive like I desired. When you make it a priority to fuel your body with nutritious food, appropriate sleep and also exercise you will be able to have the energy needed to balance the busy schedule you have.
I hope these tips have been helpful to you. It is my desire that you do not just read this information, but that you actually take the information I shared and apply it in your life. Productivity is your key to success, be sure to make it a priority!- Nicolya
Today I had the pleasure of speak with a dear friend and TV host of the Vinny and Carisa Show on Time Warner Network.
Find the show here on YouTube . The show features talents of all walks of life
We talked a whole lot about the law of attraction and how it affects life, thoughts, EVERYTHING. We shared our own experiences and ideas about it.
We also got deep about speaking your truth and how you learn as your grow and go through life.
Enjoy it was a fascinating chat!
In this show I share with you that I play everyday.
Playing isn't just for kids and we should continue to play throughout our lives to help keep us happy, healthy, and fucking sane.
Yes life takes over after a full time job, marriage and kids but you can still play however you desire as long as you know that you can.
Play can be anything! I consider sexuality, creativity, and self-development MAJOR areas of play.
Listen in to hear how!
Welcome to the show again!
Today I have on Mariana Ruiz, a fellow mompreneur and podcaster! I am eagerly awaiting her new show The Mom Entrepreneur Success Podcast. Look out for it in iTunes.
Mariana is a business coach who helps moms build profitable online businesses and today she shares 4 ways we can all get out of own way to start our own biz and finally get happy and free in our lives!
In this episode Mariana mentioned Amy Porterfield, who i also love and listen to her podcast. Check her out too!
OMG I totally got to chat with my podcast superstar Amy E. Smith AKA the joy junkie
I started listening to AMY over a year ago when i heard her name mentioned in her bff's podcast @ Your Kick Ass Life with Andrea Owen.
I was instantly hooked. I could go on and on and on about Amy but I really want you to listen to this show as I will over and over again, ok now i sound like her groupie, which I would be if I could follow her around, LOL
In todays show we chatted it up about How To Stand Up For Yourself Without Being a Dick. Yes this is the name of her freebie on her site. It comes in workbook form and audio!
Amy is a Life Coach and Communication Expert, and a DAMN good one at that, c'mon listen to the show!
Welcome to a solo show!
Just me! A rant on the word and action play. An intro into the month of October and why play is so important to me, to us, to life.
Go ahead take a listen it't not that long
Contessa, O Contessa.
What a WOMAN! Powerful, motivated, beautiful inside and out! You'll find out why when you listen to her powerful message and story. How she built a life from the bottom up and with an autistic child at the age of 16.
You can look more into Contessa @ ContessaLousie.com.
In this episode Contessa shares with us 4 Ways to Write Your Book in 3 days, like she did!
Grab her freebie @ bit.ly/WriteWriteWrite
Bonus- Digital Membership site for Authorpreneur Training
"I give myself permission to be horny"
Today I spoke with Gaia Shawna Morrissete and WOW what a chat this was. This chick is FULL of positive SEXUAL energy and we can ALL learn so much from her.
Gaia is a world renowned Sexual Wellness Coach. She specializes in healing sexual trauma, abuse and interference. With over fourteen years of teaching, coaching, and assisting people, Gaia has guided and facilitated the sexual awakening of individuals and couples through various healing techniques and even a variety of tantalizing events. She has often been quoted as bringing sexuality and spirit to new levels of creativity, understanding and openness, inspiring a new found sense of joy for her clients and workshop attendees.
In todays chat we spoke about so many things but mainly circled around the idea of ORGASM and the power we hold inside ourselves as women. I know, interesting.
We also talked about why women cross their legs, laughing for 30 seconds, surrender, and a fun exercise called surrendering to the moment.
Check it out!
This is my personal view but I believe it is A TRUTH for most.
We tend to put more pressure on ourselves than necessary.
Go ahead and listen to my rant on this topic, think about it and i think you may look at it differently.
Thanks for listening and please come join us in The Pod Junkie Pad!
Also if you are wanting to start your own podcast, come grab the BETA price until Monday October 3 and find out more in the group at Passion to Pod
Today I had the pleasure of speaking with Social Media Strategist Nikki Pebbles.
I joined her FB group The Pebbles Rebels and found out that she lived SOOOOO close to me. We instantly started talking and I loved everything about her personality so I of course had to have this red-headed chick on!
Today she shares the 4 Things We are All Probably Doing Wrong On Instagram:
A sneak peak:
Find out more by listening to the show!
Find out more about Nikki by clicking on her site Nikkipebbles.com
Enjoy the show!
Thanks for listening and please come join us in The Pod Junkie Pad!
In this episode I speak with Lauren Herrera of Love is a Verb Podcast.
We spoke deeply and she shared about her past, when she was kid and the heartbreak and pains she went through.
She spoke about when she had her own business and how that came to a screeching halt
"I felt hallow, an empty shell of who I was. My gym had just closed, I was broke financially, devastated, emotionally and physically exhausted.
I decided to keep a positive outlook and behavior, but on the inside I was dying.
Have you ever been in such a dark place it feels empty? Like there actually isn't anything left to feel?" -Lauren Herrera
In the end she came up with Love is A Verb Podcast and how that has helped shaped who she is today.
A bright, LOVING, caring, open-hearted human being with the passion to help others open up as as well.
Through her podcast is how she connects and helps her guests spread their love to others.
It truly is a wonderful show and if you aren't yet listening.... UM YOU NEED TO
Thanks for listening and please come join us in The Pod Junkie Pad!
It's true, SO VERY TRUE.
Don't listen to your gut and the repercussions suck, they are draining and they suck the life and health right from your body.
When you feel that uncomfortable feeling in the pit of your stomach or other parts of your body that you just can't explain, it's your gut revolting, literally (this word I do not throw around lightly, or ever really)
Go on, listen to what I have to say in this show.